Feelings

Recently, I saw a post in one of the Facebook groups about people having their feelings dismissed. I found this bothersome. I also found this familiar, not from the stand point of having my feelings dismissed, but by being guilty of dismissing someone else’s feelings, or at least not taking them as seriously as I should have.

We all handle things differently. The feelings or pain that the person may be going through can be physical, mental, emotional, or psychological. We don’t know. We just know they are hurting. This can be seen by their actions or inactions or by their words or by their silence. This dismissal of someone’s feelings can come from anywhere, family, friends, disabled peers etc.

·        I have aches and pains as I’m sure others with Spina Bifida or any other disability do. Fortunately for me, mine are not severe. I wake up hurting, but once I start moving, I am good to go. That is not the case with everyone. People with tethered spinal cords, I understand are in excruciating pain all the time. This must be a nightmare.

 

·        I have suffered the loss of a parent/s or loved one either through death or through that person moving away or simply by losing touch for one reason or another. Yes, I grieved their losses, but I was able to find the strength to accept and deal with the loss and move on in a constructive way.

 

·        Ive had times when I have been tested mentally, emotionally, psychologically or spiritual. This was primarily due having to deal with aspects of my Spina Bifida that I never had to deal with or accept before.

 

While writing this post, some of the points really hit me. I am going to look into each of these more and talk about how I have handled them and how I might have handled them differently. I look forward to hearing from people about how they handled similar situations. Thank you in advance.